bridezilla-to-be
July 20, 2005Unlike many girls, I never really daydreamed about my wedding day. I imagined what kind of career I’d have, the sort of car I’d drive and the type of house I’d call home. I even fantasized about having a family and in that fantasy there was always a husband. I just never imagined the day that he’d become mine.
But now that Rama and I are engaged and, knock on wood, getting married in 10 months, I can’t stop thinking about our wedding day.
Well, partly it’s because I have to. We’ve picked a date and chosen our ceremony location, and now we have to find a reception spot.
Mostly, though, I like thinking about it. I enjoy flipping through bridal magazines, I look forward to tearing out pages and slipping them into my wedding binder, I have a wedding binder, and I just love those emails that tell me how many more weeks until Rama and I tie the knot.
I guess that’s the weird part. This obsession is new to me. I told Michelle that I’m afraid of becoming a bridezilla. I’m worried that I will put our wedding before our ever-blossoming relationship. I’m nervous that I will focus too much and too long on every little detail of this one day. Michelle says it’s not possible and Rama says the fact that I even think about that means that I’m probably safe. I hope they’re right.
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I look on the bright side.
I take photos. Lots of photos.
I wish on stars and on websites.
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I launched, then relaunched, an online magazine.
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Congratulations! I’m so happy for you!
I’m excited to see what you two come up with for the wedding. It’ll be beautiful!
I think you have your heart in the right place. It’s all about the marriage, not the wedding. And you already know that. :)
You’re gold!
There’s no *way* you could become a bridezilla.
You’re going to plan the coolest wedding ever. I just know it.
i got married in april. 4 months of planning and i had it how i wanted – low key and nice:)
you won’t turn into a bridezilla unless you get crazy about having everything “perfect.”
good luck and congrats:)
i wish i were in LA to help you plan stuff! man! i think we’d be spending a lot of time at your dining room table, eating pie and ooohhing over magazines. hee. as always, if i can help from 1000 miles away, just ask! [i’m still looking for those martha stewart mags, i know i have them somewhere!] xoxo LD
I know exactly what you mean. I still can’t imagine getting married. I’m so happy for you! I’m sure it’s a fun new obsession. I don’t think you are capable of becoming a bridezilla, it’s not in your nature! =)
you, bridezilla? never. besides, your friends wouldn’t let it happen :)
I am excited you are so excited!
i cannot wait to hear your plans, (hopefully?) see pictures of the beautiful day, and all of your ideas!
being married is bliss! (i celebrate six, yes! six years this next week with my husband!)
just remember that marriage isn’t about the wedding. it’s about sharing the rest of your life with someone. the wedding part is just a ceremony. the marriage is about the love that you two have for each other. all the best christine!
xoxo
sarah
I agree with Rama…the fact that you think about it means you are safe. I wasn’t one of those people who daydreamed about my wedding day either, but I really had fun planning it & making the day meaningful and special. It’s a day unlike any other in your life, so you should enjoy planning it; it’s a nice way to kickoff years of wedded bliss. One word of advice, though: after all the planning, the day flies by, so be sure to let go of any anxieties on the actual day & savor every minute.
Congratulations! I’m so happy for both of you!
the one thing that’s really kept me in check is to just relax about the whole thing. if i have stress over anything at all, i go straight to the source, and remind myself that it’s not my place to take it out on anyone else. less than a month to go for me! you’ll be fine, christine!
Congratulations!!! Don’t worry – the excitment is the best part and you just writing this is knowledge that you won’t be the bridezilla!
Congrats again -:)
xo