dispelling the myth

March 13, 2010

I’m often asked how I “do it all.” And my answer is always the same: “I don’t.”

(Case in point: How often do I update this site?)

Maybe from the outside looking in, it looks like I have everything together. But now more than ever, ever since having Henry, it couldn’t be further from the truth. I don’t do it all. I do as much as I can, and some days that means making sure that I kiss my husband goodbye in the morning, feed and change my son, and feed and change myself. Sometimes, that’s a good day. If I can take a shower, fix the bed, make a home-cooked meal, get good work done, do something creative and do something relaxing, too, well that is just a red-letter day. (And it probably means I will spend the next several days crashing because I did way too much the day before.)

The key throughout this continued effort to juggle and balance, I’m finding, is to be gentle with myself. I am learning to forgive myself, and I wish other women, especially new moms, could do this too. We are not perfect and to expect it of ourselves is just ridiculous. That’s the truth.


  1. wendy says:

    here, here – with doing as much as you can. xoxox what is next week looking like for you?

  2. Anna Bartlett says:

    oh Christine, that’s excellent advice. And so true for me too. after my class tonight and maybe some other stuff (!) and when I write my next blog post, I’d like to link to this one of yours. Just a perfect explanation. Thanks.

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